June 4, 2008

Sad Songs


What do you listen to when you are sad? Does it depend on what kind of sad it is? Do you have tunes you listen to for heartbreak and music you listen to when it’s mortality that’s gotten you down? 

I am mourning the loss of a dear family friend and only silence and sobs have sounded fitting. In the coming days, I am sure music (as it always is) will be a comfort. What would you recommend?

“Stop Sobbing Now” by the Kinks?

Anyone who says “I Will Follow You in to the Dark” by Death Cab for Cutie will get 20 lashes and loose all my respect.

I have listened to one song, and as obvious as it may seem, it was ”Hallelujah” by Jeff Buckley.  Its heartbreak matches mine and it seems totally okay to sob your eyes out to it. 

I’ll be laying low from Sound on the Sound and shows for a little bit, but I look forward to hearing your recommendations for a musical salve.

And every breath we drew was Hallelujah


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  1. mfallon #

    Anything by the Tindersticks. I highly recommend their first two albums.

  2. Cliff #

    Anything off of bonnie “prince” billies album I see a darkness but especially the title track

  3. Elena #

    Aw that really sucks. I wish I had good music to recommend, but just wanted to share my sympathy. (and say that I’m a regular reader and love the blog!)

  4. I’m terribly sorry to hear about your loss, Abbey.

    As far as song recs, I’d have to go with anything from The Mountain Goats’ Get Lonely, or “Say Yes” by Elliott Smith (which is not a particularly sad song, but still). Also, Buckley’s version of “Hallelujah” is one of the few songs that actually makes me cry, so you definitely made a perfect choice for that one.

  5. I’m so sorry, Abbey.

    In my experience, anything that reminds you of the good times with the person you lost is good listening material, even if it’s upbeat.

  6. facts about rob #

    i hear you, abbey… since i lost my sister and both parents in a two month span a few years back… sad songs take on new meaning for me…

    the very best sad music for losing someone that i know to recommend is either…

    reindeer section’s “cold water”

    (some lines)
    “It’s hard enough to believe you’ve left us
    No goodbyes and no signs that you hurt
    I could cry like you should’ve years ago
    So I will see you when I am ready to go

    I am not ready
    I am not ready”

    or bonnie prince billy’s “i see a darkness”

    “Well you know I have a love, a love for everyone I know
    And you know I have a drive to live I won’t let go
    But can you see it’s opposition comes arising up sometimes
    It’s dreadful antiposition comes blacking in my mind

    And then I see a darkness”

    they won’t cheer you up, of course, but i’ve found when i’m sad and i miss someone, it’s best to lock the doors, black at the world, put on something as sad as the missing, and let it all out, till you can’t cry no more… then turn the lights back on and go try to put up with the world some more…

    and campy and silly as it sounds, the one that always gets me to cry (’cause it mentions a sister specifically) is alexi murdoch’s “orange sky” (i don’t CARE if it was on an O.C. soundtrack! *shudder* always makes me cry…)

    read those lyrics:

  7. facts about rob #

    cliff already nailed the bonnie prince billy… i should learn to read the other responses first…

    too busy feeling sad for you.

  8. Mad Dog #

    Sorry, I love that DCFC song…

  9. Eelco #

    Satisfied Mind by Jeff Buckley. I want that song played on my funeral.

  10. *hug* The following songs have gotten me through really difficult times, and I don’t care how cliche they are: Jeff Buckley & various versions of “Hallelujah.” High school: “Black And Blue” by Counting Crows, “The Shining” by Badly Drawn Boy, and “Glycerin” (acoustic) by Bush. College: “Svefn-G-Englar” by Sigur Ros, “Fire and Rain” by James Taylor, “Cathedrals” by Jump Little Children, (oddly) “Don’t Cry For Me, Argentina” from Evita, Madonna-style (cannot listen to this without choking up), “Tiger Lily” by Matchbook Romance, and the entire “Tidal” album by Fiona Apple. Post-college: “Not Too Late For Dreams” by Pinto (*sob*), “Family Business” by Kanye West, “Reason Why” by Rachael Yamagata, “Needs” by Collective Soul, “In My Time Of Need” by Ryan Adams, “My Happiness” by Powderfinger, “Where Is My Love” by Cat Powers, “Sounds of Silence” by Simon & Garfunkel (the drumless one, on vinyl), Animals and Wish You Were Here albums from Pink Floyd, various Willie Nelson songs…

    All of these have been on perma-repeat status at various times. Interestingly, I forgot about the Happy Hour meeting I was supposed to go to while compiling this list… thanks missy ;)

  11. Jamie #

    I’m a bit late, so I don’t know if this will help, but I’ve lost three people in the last year and a half, and the only song that has helped me through is ‘Wish You Were Here’ by Pink Floyd.
    The person who suggested Elliott Smith was also right.
    So, if you’re into that kind of music, it’s definitely worth a listen.

  12. One last cry always makes me cry.

  13. nxtr #

    Glory Box Portishead
    The way of love Cher
    Bang Bang Nancy Sinatra

  14. Hi Abbey,

    Nov 2009 now so I hope you are feeling a little better about your loss. Sad laments are my specialty….try this acoustic song.


  15. Madge Hope #

    Someone recommended to me a new emerging artist called Barnaby Griffin (www.myspace.com/barnabygriffin)

    He sings mainly sad songs and some of his stuff is quite harrowing.

  16. Cameron #


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